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<blockquote data-quote="Rayhaan V" data-source="post: 171" data-attributes="member: 19"><p>Yeah, I think that's a common misconception. However, I will say that it's important to have at least a degree of self confidence (quiet self-confidence is of course perfectly fine, of course). While there really is no need at all to be loud, or good in big groups, particularly at the start of your journey as a lawyer, you do have to realise that your voice and your opinion actually matters. It's quite tricky on how to offer concrete tips on how to do this, but a good start is to aim to contribute more in other group settings (maybe a class if you're still at university/law school, or other groups you may interact with).</p><p></p><p>You acknowledge that you do well in one to one interviews, which means that you clearly have interesting and valid things to say, so let people hear those things! I have had moments in group exercises where I have sat there and thought: "I haven't said anything in a while, I really should, I'm being so quiet". It can be really nerve-wracking, and actually inhibiting.</p><p></p><p>While I don't think that's necessarily healthy, I believe it can helpful to set yourself a little target of contributing a certain number of times. You don't have to say anything particularly lengthy, and in fact the more concise and punchy you are the better you tend to come across. But problems like a lack of contribution in group exercises, especially where you feel you're being dwarfed, often comes down to you thinking that what you're going to say is wrong, or that people will think you're stupid. They won't, and even if what you say isn't quite on the nose, if you can set up a plausible argument for it you will still come off well.</p><p></p><p>The other good news is that as a person who is naturally quieter (at least as far as I can tell) you will be much less likely to steamroller someone or shout them down, which is maybe the worst thing you can do in these types of things. However, probably just as bad is saying nothing (as I'm sure you know). Back yourself to be able to make pertinent, well reasoned points, it is highly likely that you will.</p><p></p><p>The last thing I'll say is that it is entirely okay to feel nervous, or jittery, or concerned about these things. As I've said before: many, many people feel the same way. I'm not telling you that the presence of any anxiety at all will prevent you from succeeding - you just have to try and fight off that particular demon as best you can, and I'm sure you'll do great.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Rayhaan V, post: 171, member: 19"] Yeah, I think that's a common misconception. However, I will say that it's important to have at least a degree of self confidence (quiet self-confidence is of course perfectly fine, of course). While there really is no need at all to be loud, or good in big groups, particularly at the start of your journey as a lawyer, you do have to realise that your voice and your opinion actually matters. It's quite tricky on how to offer concrete tips on how to do this, but a good start is to aim to contribute more in other group settings (maybe a class if you're still at university/law school, or other groups you may interact with). You acknowledge that you do well in one to one interviews, which means that you clearly have interesting and valid things to say, so let people hear those things! I have had moments in group exercises where I have sat there and thought: "I haven't said anything in a while, I really should, I'm being so quiet". It can be really nerve-wracking, and actually inhibiting. While I don't think that's necessarily healthy, I believe it can helpful to set yourself a little target of contributing a certain number of times. You don't have to say anything particularly lengthy, and in fact the more concise and punchy you are the better you tend to come across. But problems like a lack of contribution in group exercises, especially where you feel you're being dwarfed, often comes down to you thinking that what you're going to say is wrong, or that people will think you're stupid. They won't, and even if what you say isn't quite on the nose, if you can set up a plausible argument for it you will still come off well. The other good news is that as a person who is naturally quieter (at least as far as I can tell) you will be much less likely to steamroller someone or shout them down, which is maybe the worst thing you can do in these types of things. However, probably just as bad is saying nothing (as I'm sure you know). Back yourself to be able to make pertinent, well reasoned points, it is highly likely that you will. The last thing I'll say is that it is entirely okay to feel nervous, or jittery, or concerned about these things. As I've said before: many, many people feel the same way. I'm not telling you that the presence of any anxiety at all will prevent you from succeeding - you just have to try and fight off that particular demon as best you can, and I'm sure you'll do great. [/QUOTE]
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