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<blockquote data-quote="D95" data-source="post: 14070" data-attributes="member: 3094"><p>Alice, I absolutely second everything you've just said here <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>I have been struggling with massive self-confidence problems for the past few years too. Last year I gave up with some applications half-way through because I could not see a point - in my mind, if I was going to get rejected, why even bother trying? This round, however, I hope I will not make the same mistake again.</p><p></p><p>I would also like to add a few points to your list which might help others with their wellbeing if you are still searching for your training contract:</p><p></p><p>4. STOP obsessively going through LinkedIn.</p><p>Don't get me wrong - I love LinkedIn and it helped me immensely with job hunting and connecting with other professionals. At the same time I, like many others, became guilty of comparing myself to those of my peers, who have already stepped onto the elusive TC ladder. As a graduate, in the past it would actually reduce me to tears to see 2nd year students getting offers from places that I applied to. It took me many months to accept that (as it was once wisely said): "<em>Career in law is a marathon, not a sprint</em>". Breathe in, breathe out and close LinkedIn app (the rhyme game is strong today!).</p><p></p><p>5. If you are going through the rejection, it is absolutely fine to let your emotions out.</p><p>Do not try to keep them inside or else you might end up crying in the meeting room in front of your supervisor after your TC rejection arrived (I am still slightly embarrassed by it, although admittedly I work with the best counsel in the world as he was truly sympathetic).</p><p>So, cry and scream if you need.</p><p>As a person who cannot get by without a daily one-hour long session on Spotify, I would also like to add that creating your Overcoming Rejection playlist is a great thing. Some suggestions: "You haven't seen the last of me" by Cher, "I don't care" by Apocalyptica, "Doubt" by Mary J Blige, "Blood in my eyes" by Sum41 and "You oughta know" by Alanis Morissette (the "you" in this scenario is the law firm - enjoy! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> ).</p><p>Hopefully, one day I will be able to share with you my "I GOT A TRAINING CONTRACT" playlist too!</p><p></p><p>6. You might not have a TC yet but that does not mean that your life is pointless and meaningless.</p><p>On the contrary - do not let the lack of TC to define you and your life. As trivial as it sounds, there are plenty of great things in your life that can make it wholesome. For me, it was a realisation that I already have things that are much higher in the hierarchy of my needs, namely: my wonderful family, loving partner, fluffy and adorable yet also absolutely mad ball of fur (i.e. my cat), close group of friends. From this perspective, it really does not matter that much that I do not have a TC yet. It'd be great to get one soon, but it's not going to be the end of the world if it does not happen.</p><p></p><p>Happy World Mental Health Day, everyone <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>Feel free to PM me if you want to chat, always open to new songs propositions to my ever-growing playlist.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="D95, post: 14070, member: 3094"] Alice, I absolutely second everything you've just said here :) I have been struggling with massive self-confidence problems for the past few years too. Last year I gave up with some applications half-way through because I could not see a point - in my mind, if I was going to get rejected, why even bother trying? This round, however, I hope I will not make the same mistake again. I would also like to add a few points to your list which might help others with their wellbeing if you are still searching for your training contract: 4. STOP obsessively going through LinkedIn. Don't get me wrong - I love LinkedIn and it helped me immensely with job hunting and connecting with other professionals. At the same time I, like many others, became guilty of comparing myself to those of my peers, who have already stepped onto the elusive TC ladder. As a graduate, in the past it would actually reduce me to tears to see 2nd year students getting offers from places that I applied to. It took me many months to accept that (as it was once wisely said): "[I]Career in law is a marathon, not a sprint[/I]". Breathe in, breathe out and close LinkedIn app (the rhyme game is strong today!). 5. If you are going through the rejection, it is absolutely fine to let your emotions out. Do not try to keep them inside or else you might end up crying in the meeting room in front of your supervisor after your TC rejection arrived (I am still slightly embarrassed by it, although admittedly I work with the best counsel in the world as he was truly sympathetic). So, cry and scream if you need. As a person who cannot get by without a daily one-hour long session on Spotify, I would also like to add that creating your Overcoming Rejection playlist is a great thing. Some suggestions: "You haven't seen the last of me" by Cher, "I don't care" by Apocalyptica, "Doubt" by Mary J Blige, "Blood in my eyes" by Sum41 and "You oughta know" by Alanis Morissette (the "you" in this scenario is the law firm - enjoy! :) ). Hopefully, one day I will be able to share with you my "I GOT A TRAINING CONTRACT" playlist too! 6. You might not have a TC yet but that does not mean that your life is pointless and meaningless. On the contrary - do not let the lack of TC to define you and your life. As trivial as it sounds, there are plenty of great things in your life that can make it wholesome. For me, it was a realisation that I already have things that are much higher in the hierarchy of my needs, namely: my wonderful family, loving partner, fluffy and adorable yet also absolutely mad ball of fur (i.e. my cat), close group of friends. From this perspective, it really does not matter that much that I do not have a TC yet. It'd be great to get one soon, but it's not going to be the end of the world if it does not happen. Happy World Mental Health Day, everyone :) Feel free to PM me if you want to chat, always open to new songs propositions to my ever-growing playlist. [/QUOTE]
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