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<blockquote data-quote="Dheepa" data-source="post: 91908" data-attributes="member: 1572"><p>I still struggle with this but here are ways that I've tried to deal with it in the past year:</p><p></p><p>1. Reminding myself that I am worthy/enough regardless of my achievements/successes/failures. Ultimately this is an exercise of finding your self-worth outside of materialistic things (job offers, money, academics etc.). Try listing things about yourself that you like that are completely separate from the outcome. For example, you could be an immensely hardworking person, or maybe you're very reliable etc (I'm choosing traits here that are tied to workplace environments since that's the context of what we're talking about but include whatever you want!) Come back to the list often - especially on days when you won't believe it.</p><p></p><p>2. Being enough isn't about being the best or being better than other people. Especially at work, being a high performer or good at your role has absolutely nothing to do with either of those things (imo). Not even the people we view as being more "worthy" than ourselves are necessarily the best. So when you make a mistake or you get critical feedback or your supervisor isn't happy with something - view it as an isolated learning opportunity and not a reflection of whether you're good enough for the job or the task etc. TLDR: you're still enough no matter the mistakes you make. Personally making this shift in mindset has allowed me to take on more things that I knew nothing about - because I stopped worrying about whether I was good enough for it/had the skills to do it and just focused on learning it/enjoying it as I go along. Don't fake it until you make it, just learn and get better (the confidence will come with the knowledge you've learnt) until you make it.</p><p></p><p>3. Celebrate your success and don't down play it. Imposter syndrome can manifest itself in having you so focused on what's next (how to fit in, how to keep proving your worth) that you can forget to appreciate that you are doing exactly what the you from 2 or 3 years ago wanted so badly. Acknowledge how hard you worked, how it was all you. Tell everyone about it and don't hold back. Only you know what it took to get to where you are - and every once in a while it's okay to stop, look back and just be proud. </p><p></p><p>According to the books I've read on this, more often than not feelings of not being good enough are rooted in experiences we had growing up. May also be worth delving into where that feeling really comes from (if applicable) for you.</p><p></p><p>As the user above said, you're definitely not alone in how you feel. 😬</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Dheepa, post: 91908, member: 1572"] I still struggle with this but here are ways that I've tried to deal with it in the past year: 1. Reminding myself that I am worthy/enough regardless of my achievements/successes/failures. Ultimately this is an exercise of finding your self-worth outside of materialistic things (job offers, money, academics etc.). Try listing things about yourself that you like that are completely separate from the outcome. For example, you could be an immensely hardworking person, or maybe you're very reliable etc (I'm choosing traits here that are tied to workplace environments since that's the context of what we're talking about but include whatever you want!) Come back to the list often - especially on days when you won't believe it. 2. Being enough isn't about being the best or being better than other people. Especially at work, being a high performer or good at your role has absolutely nothing to do with either of those things (imo). Not even the people we view as being more "worthy" than ourselves are necessarily the best. So when you make a mistake or you get critical feedback or your supervisor isn't happy with something - view it as an isolated learning opportunity and not a reflection of whether you're good enough for the job or the task etc. TLDR: you're still enough no matter the mistakes you make. Personally making this shift in mindset has allowed me to take on more things that I knew nothing about - because I stopped worrying about whether I was good enough for it/had the skills to do it and just focused on learning it/enjoying it as I go along. Don't fake it until you make it, just learn and get better (the confidence will come with the knowledge you've learnt) until you make it. 3. Celebrate your success and don't down play it. Imposter syndrome can manifest itself in having you so focused on what's next (how to fit in, how to keep proving your worth) that you can forget to appreciate that you are doing exactly what the you from 2 or 3 years ago wanted so badly. Acknowledge how hard you worked, how it was all you. Tell everyone about it and don't hold back. Only you know what it took to get to where you are - and every once in a while it's okay to stop, look back and just be proud. According to the books I've read on this, more often than not feelings of not being good enough are rooted in experiences we had growing up. May also be worth delving into where that feeling really comes from (if applicable) for you. As the user above said, you're definitely not alone in how you feel. 😬 [/QUOTE]
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