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<blockquote data-quote="RANDOTRON" data-source="post: 144797" data-attributes="member: 16724"><p>Congrats on securing a TC! I second everything that [USER=8822]@Kubed[/USER] said. I am in the exact same position as you – I'll be starting my TC at 25 (fingers crossed, I pass the SQE). On the other hand, some of my friends will be starting their TC this year and I have a friend in his 30s with an ocean of experience under his belt. So I had the same feeling of falling behind and feeling like I've done nothing with my life other than pursue a TC.</p><p></p><p>But after speaking to my friends, they helped me realise something that changed my mindset. That something is "so what?" Everyone's journey is different. And more importantly, we're friends. Don't get me wrong, comparison is a very natural thing, and not necessarily unhealthy. But the point it becomes unhealthy is when you compare your own self-worth to others to fuel negative self-talk, discourage yourself or diminish your own achievements – comparison then becomes the thief of joy. And you shouldn't compare yourself to strangers either, because as I said everyone has their own journey – you don't know theirs and they don't know yours. Just because someone may seem to have it all together on the outside doesn't mean that's the case. One way you can change your mindset is to acknowledge deep down that you have done incredible things to get here, so give yourself the credit you deserve and be confident about it. And I think I speak for this community when I say that we are incredibly proud of you for what you've accomplished.</p><p></p><p>One final bit: If you're okay with it, speak to your friends and family about how you feel – in my experience, I always feel more relief after sharing and processing my feelings with those I trust to confide in.</p><p></p><p>For what it's worth, here <a href="https://www.invibrantcompany.com/career/healthy-competition" target="_blank">this article</a> and <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/unhealthy-comparison-trap-causes-stress-lillian-lartey/" target="_blank">this one</a> on healthy and unhealthy comparison.</p><p></p><p>Also as [USER=2672]@Jessica Booker[/USER] said, this one year break is a massive opportunity and free time that you'll probably won't have again for a long while. I recommend you spend it on something that is worthwhile and genuinely important to you. I spent 1/4 of my break hunting for paralegal roles because I felt that it was what I was "supposed" to do. I did end up doing a brief stint at a firm which I thoroughly enjoyed, but I also realised halfway that I really wanted to go home so I can make up loss time with family. The firm was kind enough to end my contract so I can go home. Looking back, I would not have spent 1/4 of my break hunting for paralegal roles and should have just went home early.</p><p></p><p>Anyways, I hope all of this helped you feel better! Please do feel free to reach out if you ever want to talk to someone. 😊</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RANDOTRON, post: 144797, member: 16724"] Congrats on securing a TC! I second everything that [USER=8822]@Kubed[/USER] said. I am in the exact same position as you – I'll be starting my TC at 25 (fingers crossed, I pass the SQE). On the other hand, some of my friends will be starting their TC this year and I have a friend in his 30s with an ocean of experience under his belt. So I had the same feeling of falling behind and feeling like I've done nothing with my life other than pursue a TC. But after speaking to my friends, they helped me realise something that changed my mindset. That something is "so what?" Everyone's journey is different. And more importantly, we're friends. Don't get me wrong, comparison is a very natural thing, and not necessarily unhealthy. But the point it becomes unhealthy is when you compare your own self-worth to others to fuel negative self-talk, discourage yourself or diminish your own achievements – comparison then becomes the thief of joy. And you shouldn't compare yourself to strangers either, because as I said everyone has their own journey – you don't know theirs and they don't know yours. Just because someone may seem to have it all together on the outside doesn't mean that's the case. One way you can change your mindset is to acknowledge deep down that you have done incredible things to get here, so give yourself the credit you deserve and be confident about it. And I think I speak for this community when I say that we are incredibly proud of you for what you've accomplished. One final bit: If you're okay with it, speak to your friends and family about how you feel – in my experience, I always feel more relief after sharing and processing my feelings with those I trust to confide in. For what it's worth, here [URL='https://www.invibrantcompany.com/career/healthy-competition']this article[/URL] and [URL='https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/unhealthy-comparison-trap-causes-stress-lillian-lartey/']this one[/URL] on healthy and unhealthy comparison. Also as [USER=2672]@Jessica Booker[/USER] said, this one year break is a massive opportunity and free time that you'll probably won't have again for a long while. I recommend you spend it on something that is worthwhile and genuinely important to you. I spent 1/4 of my break hunting for paralegal roles because I felt that it was what I was "supposed" to do. I did end up doing a brief stint at a firm which I thoroughly enjoyed, but I also realised halfway that I really wanted to go home so I can make up loss time with family. The firm was kind enough to end my contract so I can go home. Looking back, I would not have spent 1/4 of my break hunting for paralegal roles and should have just went home early. Anyways, I hope all of this helped you feel better! Please do feel free to reach out if you ever want to talk to someone. 😊 [/QUOTE]
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