just told i failed my Sidley HR call. i'm lowkey convinced im just unlikable because i've failed 2 ACs and couldn't pass this call. i did so much research so idk where im going wrong atp.
also they don't even give feedback?
Hey!
I'm really sorry to hear that - getting a rejection after you have clearly put in a lot of effort without research is definitely frustrating, and it is totally normal to feel upset about it.
However, I really wouldn't jump to the conclusion that you are "unlikeable" at all - that is almost never what these outcomes come down to. At the AC or interview stage, margins are extremely fine and decisions can hinge on really small things (such as slight differences in answers or even just how others performed in comparison). Being unsuccessful in a couple of ACs and interviews isn't a reflection of your personality at all, and is unfortunately just part of a very competitive process.
The fact that you have reached multiple ACs and interviews already is a really strong sign that you are doing a lot right! Plenty of candidates will get multiple rejections at this stage before receiving a TC offer! I know I definitely felt I similar way to you after being rejected after vacation schemes, and often worried it was based on personality, but ultimately I ended up at the firm that is the best fit for me anyway. Sometimes it might not be a good "fit" necessarily, even if you performed well and were likeable, and that's okay! You'll end up at the firm that is the right fit for you, and your prior experiences at these ACs and interviews will help you get there.
I can definitely see how the lack of feedback is frustrating, even if it is unfortunately relatively common in the process. If it helps, you could perhaps reflect a bit on:
- How you are coming across in terms of structure and clarity in your answers (this is one of the main things I worked on, as I knew I tended to ramble under pressure!)
- Whether you are being specific enough with examples and applying them well
- How you are demonstrating "fit" for the firm beyond research (e.g. motivations, commercial awareness applied specifically to them, etc.)
I know it is easier said than done, but try not to let this knock your confidence too much! You are clearly getting close, and that usually means it is a matter of making small tweaks to your technique, rather than that you are doing anything fundamentally wrong.
We'll all be rooting for you!
