feeling ashamed

[Soliha]

Hi everyone, hope you are all doing well.
I am back again on the forum after a long break (1.5 year) and kind of missed the vibe of this forum. I became a mother 6months ago and did a masters degree juggling with my part-time job to self-fund it. I had received lots of help from TCLA (was given a TCLA premium scholarship) and from several other legal charity organisations in my previous cycle of applications but I could not get any TC or VS offer. Now I am coming back fresh but feeling ashamed to ask for help again from the same people. If you had a similar experience, how did you get around that? did you look for different people for help with your apps?

 

[Dheepa]

Hey Soliha,

First of all, congratulations on your masters degree and motherhood! I can only imagine how difficult it was to juggle academics + being a new mother + working.

I don’t think you have anything at all to be ashamed about. It takes people multiple application cycles until they manage to secure an offer. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help because honestly most people who’ve secured a TC would love to help - especially the ones that are active on these forums.

 

[TCLA Community Assistant]

Asking for help is an absolutely vital part of being a lawyer, throughout your career. You will never stop asking for help until the day you retire or decide that being a lawyer isn’t right for you. Therefore don’t feel ashamed about it - in fact it’s something you need to embrace and see as a strength.

 

[Soliha]

Hey Soliha,

First of all, congratulations on your masters degree and motherhood! I can only imagine how difficult it was to juggle academics + being a new mother + working.

I don’t think you have anything at all to be ashamed about. It takes people multiple application cycles until they manage to secure an offer. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help because honestly most people who’ve secured a TC would love to help - especially the ones that are active on these forums.

Thank you Dheepa for your message. I think I could not justify myself for getting help especially as it meant taking up someone else's place. Now I have overcome that.
Thank you.